~Guest post from the lovely Sarah~
Fuckboys David and Dan have done it again. So before I begin this long-winded rant that noone will actually read, let’s give Benioff and Dan Weiss a big round of applause!!!
In game of thrones, he’d actually be the good guy.
You have collectively pissed off the entire Game of Thrones fandom. You wanna know how hard that is? Harder than Theon’s penis right now…
Not sorry, but really I kind of am. But not really.
If you don’t know what I am talking about, TURN BACK NOW. DO NOT CONTINUE READING. GO HOME AND JUST LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND SAY TO YOURSELF “Life is great, I’m great. I love myself. I will not read this stupid article about some stupid sexist/misogynistic show.” Okay, for the rest of you who know what I am talking about, you might as well whisper some words of encouragement to yourself too, you’re gonna need it.
Okay good, now, let’s talk about Sansa Stark. And by that, let’s start at the beginning…
Actual picture of a goddamn angel who must be protected at all costs.
When we first meet Sansa, she’s your typical 13-year-old girl: gossipy, annoyed by her little sister, emotional and boy crazed. The majority of the fandom was put off by Sansa’s behavior, especially when it came to fan favorite Arya. But what people seem to forget is that Sansa is a rich teenage girl who has been raised her whole life to believe that she’ll marry some prince and live happily ever after in a beautiful castle by the sea.
What Sansa actually gets because of fuckboys
Sansa is promised to the handsome blond-haired Bieber lookalike who just happens to be wealthiest bachelor and heir of the Seven Kingdoms. So when her dad told her she was going to marry him, she was ecstatic (like we all would be). She finally got what every 13-year-old girl wanted: to be a princess and marry the prince.
Now we all know how this story ultimately played out. Arya goes on this road trip with the Hound and ends up training to be an assassin, Robb makes bad life choices and ends up being an IRL Furry, Catelyn is killed by tru wuv, Bran becomes Westeros’s very first tree hugger, Rickon starts a My Little Pony club, and Ned loses his head because JUSTICE.
I AM THE JUSTICE. I AM NED STARKMAN.
So while everyone else is almost in control of their life and the choices they make, Sansa is stuck in King’s Landing, being constantly abused and assaulted by those living around her. The people who should be keeping her safe, are instead trying to break her will and emotionally destroy her. And you know what? Sansa just says “fuck that, I’m still better than all of you.”
Now, a lot of you are gonna bitch about how Sansa betrayed her family. She sold out Arya and her father to Cersei, she deserved everything that happened to her. Well dick weed, let me paint you a picture. I’d say close your eyes, but then you wouldn’t be able to read these beautiful words on your screen, so just pretend you closed your eyes to envision this scene.
It’s a beautiful sunny day, you’re tired after a long days ride and this cute boy who just happens to be the PRINCE OF FREAKING WESTEROS comes up to you and is like “yo bae, let’s go for a walk.” OF COURSE YOU WOULD BE STOKED. So you internally freak out, because hello HE IS CUTE, but you calm yourself and nonchalantly reply “Yeah, sure. Sounds fun Joffrey.” So you’re walking and having a great time. He listens to your concerns, gives you some wine, and all of a sudden you come across your highborn sister fighting some peasant boy. Joffrey, who wants nothing more in this world than to impress you, calls out this peasant boy for hitting your sister. So, this beautiful walk quickly turns more awkward than if you had walked in on your brother trying out his new furry costume.
So you just try to calm everyone down and just try to convince everyone to leave this entire situation. But no, your sister keeps pushing buttons and all of a sudden, a physical altercation between your sister and your boyfriend occurs. He gets OWNED by an 8-year-old girl and embarrasses himself in front of you. Game over.
Your sister runs off, your dad has to go find her, and you’re left alone with the Queen B of Side Eyeing Cersei Lannister. You don’t need words to imagine what was going on here.
So when you’re called into this room with the King, your dad, your sister, your future husband, and Queen B, you’re already in a fucked situation. If you tell the truth, your betrothed is going to hate you and your future mother in law will probably try to throw you into prison.
Season 3 of Rose is the New Black coming this fall starring Margaery Tyrell and Cersei Lannister.
You could lie and have your entire family hate you and be forever known as the worst Stark ever….or you could just say “you don’t remember” and hope everything turns out fine. Now let’s be frank here, Ned was not going to call off this wedding anytime soon at this point. And if Sansa would have told the truth, she would have been in a world of pain for a really long time. I mean, this is her future husband. She is supposed to stick up for him. Now, well know how this really played out, but at the time, she (and the viewer) had no clue how fucking crazy this kid was. And she paid her price for her crime. She lost her Direwolf, her dog that she loved more than Robb loved Talisa.
Still a better love story than Robb x Talisa
Now, we all know what happened next, fuckboy Joffrey started treating Sansa right, apologizing, giving her a dope necklace, treating her like a princess and all of a sudden her dad comes in and goes “yo Sansa, we’re leaving. I’ll find you some northern boy to marry.” And Sansa just flat-out refuses. Why would she leave Kings Landing when she has this cute boy who is totally interested in her, the weather is great, and she is living out the teenage dream. So of course, she goes to the one person who’s been almost like a mother to her, Cersei freakin Lannister. She tells Cersei her father wants to leave Kings Landing and take Sansa along and that Cersei has to convince Ned to let her stay. So Cersei plays her cards right and Ned (who is told NOT to trust the guy who is obsessed/in love with his wife but yet trusts him because JUSTICE WILL PREVAIL) is betrayed by Pedo Baelish and is killed.
Hello Sansa, I will protect you, but only until I use my Tardis to go to King’s Landing and leave you surrounded by enemies #Swag
Now all alone, Sansa needs to find a way to survive. And now people see Sansa as weak because she doesn’t just go around killing people in their sleep. That just isn’t Sansa. Sansa uses her wits and words to navigate through her every day life, while being subjected to physical, emotional and sexual abuse by her keepers. Sansa’s story has always been about surviving in a world fought with words, not swords. And despite everything that has happened to her, she’s always remained kind and caring. And at this point, if you’re still on board with the whole “Sansa deserves all this shit” please go talk to your mother or some woman in your life that you respect and love. Please, I’ll wait for you.
Okay glad to see you’re back. I missed you. Hope your talk was great.
Now, I want to discuss the first time Game of Thrones actually disgusted me. Let’s turn to Season 2, episode 4 “The Old Gods and the New.” In this episode, Myrcella is shipped off to Dorne and as Sansa and her captives head back to the Keep, they are attacked by a mob of angry residents. Sansa is separated and chased down by a group of men. One of the men attacks her, knocks her to the ground, gets over top of her and asks her if she’s “ever been fucked.” If Sandor had not come and rescue her, I think it is safe to say Sansa would have been raped. Now I know in the books, Sansa is attacked, but did David and Dan have to actually show this scene? They’re already re-written so many story arcs, they could have easily just had her cornered with a knife to her throat. But David and Dan, being David and Dan, do not miss out on a chance to sexually victimize a female character.
I’m pretty sure this scene was just foreshadowing all the future bullshit we’d be seeing later on.
Even after that scene, I forgave David and Dan. So far, I thought they were doing a pretty decent job with adapting Sansa’s story (especially compared to others *cough cough* Catelyn *cough cough*). There were a few issues (like the Joffrey, Ros, prostitute scene, LIKE WAS THAT REALLY NEEDED? AND DO I NEED TO TALK ABOUT OUR LORD AND SAVIOR TALISA), but overall, nothing to really to write an article about. Then something happened…..season 4.
Season 4 marked the point in this show where I started to question why I even watched this show anymore. First, we have the altar sex scene. Where, even to this day, the cast and crew still vehemently defend that scene. A year later and they’re still trying to convince everyone Jaime didn’t rape Cersei (it was the editing they say….okay, still not an excuse, but whatever helps you sleep at night). Now if that didn’t sour your Game of Thrones viewing experience, just wait till the next episode where David and Dan once again show their bizarre fascination with throwing excessive and unnecessary rape in your face with Craster’s Keep. This is where David and Dan truly started using rape as a shock value and they went out of their way to write this clusterfuck of misogyny to shock the viewers.
Cersei’s drinking habit can be attributed to David and Dan’s misogynistic writing because she’s tired of fuckboys.
AND LET US NOT FORGET ABOUT MEERA REED. This was the season where Bran was running out of source material, so the showrunners started to write new material to keep Bran in the story longer. And guess what? GUESS WHAT THEY DID?!
“glad we were able to find another female character we can threaten rape against.” david and dan probably
Yep, more threats of sexual violence against another female character. And this scene got very uncomfortable (at least for me). Let’s keep in mind, this wasn’t a scene that was pre-established in the books. This was something that was purposefully written into the show. They could have done so many other things, but instead relied on good old shock value. Thankfully, they did not actually proceed with the threats, but after everything else that’s happened in this show so far, the fact it didn’t go farther was surprising. But it really pains me to know I live in a world where Meera Reed was almost raped, instead of telling great camping stories as Bran chows down on some homemade Jojen paste.
Be the paste meera
After the shit storm that can only be described as season 4 of Game of Thrones, you’d think David and Dan would have learned their lesson. Would have learned from their mistakes and correct the problems from previous seasons.
Pretty sure Daenerys is the Westerosi version of David and Dan because this is obviously not problematic.
And you know what? I actually thought they had. Four episodes into Season 5 (and minus the weird Melisandre boob scene) David and Dan seemed to be learning from their mistakes.
Wait till you meet the magical R’hllor enchanced boobs, .
Then they had to fuck everything up.
For those who are not familiar with ASOIAF (the book series you nerds), Sansa is actually in the Vale with Pedo Baelish, hiding from the world under the alias Alayne. It is there, Littlefinger is teaching her to control her agency and to play the game and survive. Despite all the creepy vibes from Pedofinger, Sansa is away from all the violence and assaults, and safe for once in her life. She’s being groomed to retake Winterfell and gain control of her life.
But because watching a woman gain control and power over her life is boring as fuck, David and Dan has gloriously rewrote an entire storyline so we can have Sansa yet again in a relationship with another sadistic asshole. Because violent relationships that demean women is way more interesting than women actually being happy and in control of their lives.
Two men who are actively boycotting Mad Max because there wasn’t enough sexual violence in a movie about sex slavers.
And I won’t lie, I was a bit intrigued with this new storyline. I hated it with a passion, but I was intrigued nonetheless and was willing to give them a chance with this new arc. Then last Sunday happened.
AND WHAT IN THE FLYING FUCK WAS THAT?
YOU HAD SO MANY OPTIONS. SO MANY CHOICES AND YET YOU DID THAT?
Not only did you write a storyline where a female character who is still a virgin in the books, is brutally raped, but took her entire storyline and put in the hands of Theon fucking Greyjoy. Now in the books, it is Jeyne Poole (Sansa’s friend from season 1 who disappears) who is disguised as Arya Stark and is married to Ramsay. Theon is then forced to watch and partake in the rape and assault of this young woman. And I’m not saying that was okay, no it fucking wasn’t cool. It is problematic as hell and deserves to be discussed at all costs. Martin was using rape as a way for Theon to redeem himself, and now David and Dan were doing the same for their bro Theon in the show. So instead of the show focusing on Sansa growing as a woman, they removed her power and focused everything on Theon’s ordeal. Instead of focusing on Sansa as she was brutally raped, they cut to Theon, showing Theon’s disgust, his feelings, his regret. They took Sansa’s rape and made it about Theon fucking Greyjoy. They couldn’t even make Sansa’s own rape about her. They took a powerful young woman, and used her rape so a male character could find redemption.
Kills two kids, betrays the only people who treated him like family and is still more well liked than Sansa. #Logic
Why does rape have to be the first thing you think of? What kind of world do we live in where you have to automatically just accept rape as a natural cause to a situation? There are so many other things they could have done, that would have actually shocked the viewers. For example, right when Ramsay rips Sansa’s dress, have Theon stab Ramsay in the back and run off with Sansa. Have Sansa stab Ramsay in the face!!!! I mean come on, Brienne was less than a day’s ride to the South, Stannis is coming in from the North, they could have EASILY waited before having this wedding until one or both them could be there. But no, David and Dan had to take a character who has already been victimized and make her a victim once again. She’s already been the survivor, did she really need to replay this role? What does this even do for her character development? She’s gone from one crazed asshole to another, and this does nothing to further her as a character. The only thing this does, is make her a victim again that has to rely upon others to save her from a terrible situation. And the sad thing is, is 20 minutes prior to this shitass scene, Sansa was controlling her situation, her surroundings with the Myranda scene. And I have said it before (and will never stop preaching) they’re using rape as shock value. Rape is already over used in shows, books, movies, etc and 90% do not further the plot at all. It’s like David and Dan don’t know how to write conflicting situations without including rape (but I guess this is what happens when this season has no female writers or directors). Now look back at every single rape (or attempted rape) in this show and ask yourself “Did this further the plot of this story at all?” No. No they did not. These rapes did nothing to the story but destroy seasons of character developments .
Jaime Lannister, Kingslayer and registered Sex Offender.Thanks Obama..
Maybe, we as a fandom, need to stop expecting rape to be a norm in situations like this. Because, rape isn’t a norm. Rape culture is real as fuck and needs to be addressed. And until then, we need to keep calling out bullshit that isn’t right.
Now, I wish I could say I am quitting this show. My original intent was to actually make this my resignation from the show, but Sansa needs me. She needs to be defended at all costs. Cersei needs to be defended at all costs, Meera needs to be defended, Daenerys needs to be defended; Shae, Ros, all the women of Westeros needs to be defended. And yes, it’s just a show, but you have to remember, this show (and book series) has impacted the lives of so many people and will continue to do so. And the fact there are thousands of people who actively believe Sansa was not raped and believe that the continuous use of rape in this show is alright, is the reason why we can’t stop watching this show. If we stop watching this show, who will be there calling out their bullshit???? Just read some of these tweets:
@JonathanYMusic-Stop being offended by Game of Thrones Including rape in a dark & scary medieval story IS NOT glorifying rape, it’s called BEING REALISTIC.
@jegirva-We’ve had child murder, torture, in-your-face bloody murder. But rape is too far? How Hyppcrite. #sansa #gameofthrones
@donaldjr-So people are saying Sansa was raped??! I don’t think that was rape but it was disturbing as all get out.
@zergLink- @capleesi just to point out, despite how gruesome it was, she is now married to him, and it was their bedding, so no rape here #GoT
@sheppy9- @TheFix Another reason to not freak out is that they don’t show the rape. Let the Sansa story play out before judging if it was necessary.
@15BenG-Not sure why everyone is kicking off about Sansa Stark rape, she was always the vulnerable stark character was only a matter of time.
@DanaHollyWood-Yes rape is horrible and awful but GOT fans are acting like they showed Sansa getting raped on screen, which is def not what happened.
@PSConfessional-Dumbest ever! Sansa is married to Ramsey, she didn’t say No or fight. Not rape just VERY unpleasant #GameOfThrones
@BrendanGilmer-I’m not sure how you could describes Sansa’s ‘rape’ as gratuitous when you could see it coming 2 episodes before…
@LivnDaLife3902 -GOT fans get a grip sansa rape was not even graphic did u think it would go otherwise with the bolton kid?
And that isn’t even the icing of the cake. Even our friend Bryan Cogman had something to say about Sansa’s scene:
“This is Game of Thrones,” he said soberly. “This isn’t a timid little girl walking into a wedding night with Joffrey. This is a hardened woman making a choice and she sees this as the way to get back her homeland. Sansa has a wedding night in the sense she never thought she would with one of the monsters of the show. It’s pretty intense and awful and the character will have to deal with it.”
No comment, this literally speaks for itself.
So David and Dan, congrats. I want to congratulate you on making the best show that you can possibly make.
actual picture of david and dan’s writing
And Sansa Stark, Cersei Lannister, Daenerys Targaryen, Caster’s Wives, Brienne of Tarth, Meera Read, Shae, Ros, and all the other ladies of Westeros who have been be victimized by David and Dan, I want to apologize. You deserved better than mediocre writing by men who can’t invent conflict without the presence of sexual violence. But I want you all to know, I am not giving up on you. I will be here with you, till the very end. And I will be your voice, reminding the world that what is happening to you is not okay. Because rape is never okay. Acceptance of rape in a tv show because it’s “obvious it’s going to happen” is not okay. What happened Sunday night was NOT okay. And I’m sorry it had to come to this. At least I know that in the books, Sansa is still fine. Cersei was never raped by the man she loved, Meera was never hurt, Ros was never hurt. Yes, sexual violence is present in the books, and no it’s not okay. Just because it happened in the books, doesn’t mean it’s okay. And we need to show David and Dan, George, and everyone else that we’re not standing for this anymore. So take a stand and eat some lemoncakes, because this will be a long ride.